Red flags: Am I crazy? Is this normal? I am accustomed to having clients ask me these questions. I almost sit waiting for the moment they blurt them out. They usually come out in a rush, followed by a look of undiluted panic as the individual […]
Este año ha sido, como mínimo, peculiar. Como individuos, sociedades y naciones, nos enfrentamos en una época de cambios e inseguridad sin precedentes. A medida que la pandemia se ha extendido por el mundo, nos hemos enfrentado a cambios en lo personal, lo profesional y lo […]
Who would you rather get involved with? A Narcissist or a Covert Aggressive Narcissism is one of those terms that seem to be everywhere nowadays. Any bad relationship and one party is accusing the other of this type of personality disorder. But it must be stressed, […]
I have been having some interesting conversations lately with a few of my female clients regarding the nature of submission. They came about because I realised, I was often hearing a very similar story from those who had been in abusive relationships. In essence the conversation […]
This year has been, to say the least, a bit odd. We, as individuals, societies, and nations, found ourselves in a time of unprecedented change and insecurity. As Covid-19 spread around the globe, we found ourselves dealing with changes to our personal, professional, and social lives […]
I was discussing with a client the other day the nature of revenge. She had taken to watching a series on Netflix which showed righteous retribution. Her adult son had been somewhat horrified at her choice of viewing material, but quite frankly after her 4 years […]
  It has been a while since I have written anything personal. I suppose it always comes down to that line of personal and professional, trying to keep some of my personal life, well private. But today I had a conversation with an old friend, that […]
High-conflict divorce is estimated to occur in approximately 15-30 percentage of divorce settlements. As a legal practitioner it is likely that you have had one or two (or maybe more) of these protracted and at times, baffling divorce negotiations on your caseload. If you are a client, […]
The fundamental importance of money Undoubtedly there are several distinct forms that abuse can take. One that is frequently ignored, perhaps due to its seemingly insignificant nature, when compared to the heightened impact of physical violence, is the use of money. However, it is imperative that […]
No doubt if you are reading this, you’ve been feeling like you have been existing in the Twilight Zone. You left your partner after much soul-searching and doubt. You probably still doubt you’ve done the right thing. You lie awake at night thinking: ‘Maybe I should […]
Cult mentality and being mesmerised The more I work therapeutically with victims of prolonged, domestic violence, the more I see the similarities in the type of work I do and that of the de-programming necessary after cult membership. It is not that the abused individual ‘loves’ […]
Rabbit was a cute little thing. She had a squiggy, pink nose and a little, white tail. She loved to play. She was uber friendly and would always make allowances for everyone. Some might say she was a bit naive and a bit too hopeful, but […]